Goodbye to Page Soper | Summer Intern 2017

Photo by Julia D'Agostino Photography

Photo by Julia D'Agostino Photography

10 Little Lessons from an ADE Intern
We hope you find this as entertaining as our staff did! 

After a summer jam packed with weddings, an engagement party and numerous client meetings I could write a novel. But instead I will give you the concise version of my summer as an intern at Ashley Douglass Events by telling you ten little lessons I learned from following around the Energizer Bunny that is my boss. Before I start, however, I will tell you this: an event planned by Ashley epitomizes a true balance of orchestration and aesthetics with great care and energy put into creating a uniquely personalized celebration. 

1) The Client comes first. It is their event after all. As event planners we need to be readily available for the client to help ensure that their day is exactly as they pictured it. On wedding days we are there to hold the bride’s bouquet as she takes pictures, or instruct the members of the band where to set up their instruments for the ceremony. We are there to ensure that everything runs smoothly while the client is enjoying the special day. If we need to drive to a Stop & Shop at 11pm down the road to get bread and cheese so the caterer can make the five-year-old ring bearer a grilled cheese, we will do it. Trust me, I know from first hand experience. I am the intern. The bond that we form with our clients is close-nit and the smile on their face at the end of the night is priceless. Nothing is more humbling than watching the clients enjoy the event they so eagerly anticipated. 

2) Don’t leave home without THE binder. I think the last time I used a binder was in middle school, when all my classwork was compiled into one large, bright pink, well-ordered binder. I had no idea that a binder would come back into my life in a day and age when technology has completely consumed us. But trust me, an organized binder is crucial in this field. Now, each event gets its own binder complete with protective sleeves for each piece of paper that relates to that particular event - ya know in case you spill on it or need multiple copies of each piece of paper. From emails with clients and vendors to a list of contacts for the event, these binders have it all. And of course Ashley knows the contents of all of these binders without even looking at them. This is what OCD looks like. For someone, like myself, who cannot rattle off the names of the entire bridal party of one wedding, I rely heavily on the binder and its contents to provide me with all the information I need. Now if you think that is organization than you have never seen a timeline. 

3) No time like the timeline. In my mind, timelines are the saving grace of weddings. Every hour of the day planned and compiled onto one piece of paper, nothing gets much better than that. Timelines help keep us alert and aware of what is happening on wedding days, from when the photographer will begin shooting to when the band arrives and needs to do sound check by. In the event that one of the guests asks “what time do I have to be at family photography and where” we can immediately flip through the timeline and tell them “3:10pm at the entrance of the tent.” After entrees are removed, move this table to position C, then flag the smaller bus, then roll out the cake, alert the firework man of the cake cutting five minutes before its rolled out and cut the cake ten minutes after its rolled, and the fireworks will begin seven minutes after its rolled out, etc. Honestly I’m going to start organizing my days into neatly planned timelines. LOL! With events having so many moving parts, organization is key to maintaining a smooth event. 

4) Napkin folding is an art. Need I say more. 

5) The Devil is in the Details, large and small: A Wedding day is similar to collecting hundreds of loose ribbons and tying them together into a neat bow. There are so many elements that make up an intricately designed event, whether it is something as large as the venue or as small as the guest book and the linen it sits on top. Everything done at an event planned by Ashley is done thoroughly; nothing can slip through the cracks. Each table setting must be arranged precisely, escort cards lined up symmetrically, chairs tucked into the table with just the right spacing. While these details may seem small, they add up to WOW. When you see a client walk into their reception room or tent for the first time when its all set up, its well worth the sleepless nights!

6) You can’t have enough hands. The day before my first wedding of the season Ashley told me, “wear a black dress, bring a phone charger and don't forget to print the day of papers.” So that night I packed my bag with a portable phone charger my brother happened to have and printed out the timeline and all of the necessary papers for the day of the event. Little did I know that I would need to carry around those papers all day long with a pen in hand to jot down notes or make necessary changes. So after fumbling around with all of my belongings and having no free hands, I decided to invest in a folder to hold the papers and a black blazer with pockets of course. As a wedding planner you are constantly on the move, checking in with vendors or assisting the bride and groom. There are times when you wish you could grow a few more limbs on the spot. Not only do you have to carry your own belongings but you might have to carry the mother of the bride’s bag of shoes, the bride’s bouquet, the maid of honor’s bouquet and a spare bottle of water all at the same time. It becomes a juggling act but as wedding planners we are great at juggling. And you must also invest in a cross body bag - Ashley has about ten.

7) Expect the Unexpected. It is inevitable. 

8) Get a little Creative. Now as someone who took art throughout high-school and college I embraced the crafty tasks that were thrown my way. Write names on magnolia leaves to make escort cards? Bring it on! And the crafts did not stop there, I found myself creating escort cards out of driftwood and writing on chalkboards to make welcome signs for a lakeside engagement party. I was excited to find that events are not just the niddy griddy of securing a venue and vendors but also have many elements of craft and design as well.  However, this summer I learned I have the handwriting of a calligrapher and Ashley says there should be a new font named “The Soaper”.

9) Be There. This is probably the most important lesson I learned as an intern. And it is as simple as that. Making yourself available for clients, vendors and the rest of your team is crucial as a wedding planner. So many different people are counting on you to answer their questions or provide them with a little more insight into their event, you need to be there for them to help guide them through the day. One of the busiest people I know, Ashley is constantly on the move, traveling from client meetings to vendor meetings to site inspections, the woman does not stop. When I go to sleep at 10:30 pm I know that Ashley will be up for several more hours responding to emails or re-organizing the timeline. If I can lighten her load by making calls or picking up samples from a vendor consider it done.  

I cannot begin to thank Ashley and the rest of the team for such an incredible learning opportunity and summer. Never in a million years did I think I would get out of bed every morning excited to go to work. This is a field that never slows down, but luckily Ashley has rechargeable batteries; this little bunny isn't slowing down anytime soon.

Initially I told you there were 10 lessons I learned as an ADE intern, but there is actually one more. That lesson is this: 10) ADE Rocks! After months of watching her events unfold I have realized that with Ashley behind the wheel any celebration can be as beautifully managed as it is artfully designed. 

RACHEL + DAVID | Ritz Carlton, Westchester, New York

Every wedding is different as every family is different, let alone each couple and venue. Planning a wedding for a couple that has been together for over a decade has its own special characteristics too. Also, this is a second marriage for them both. The inclusion of children became most important, and sweet, and honoring both family members and friends that have been by their side through thick and thin, for decades. 

While most couples today want their ceremony to be over as soon as possible, it’s the ceremony we talked about most while planning this wedding. For one, limiting the bridal party was hard! Does the Bride and Groom keep it to friends or to family because having them both was just too many people! In the end we got very creative which made for a more personal, goose bump worthy ceremony. 

First in the processional came the Bride’s closest friends, some of which have become the Groom’s as well. These friends were coined “the flower friends”. They walked first and to assigned seats, which lined the ceremony aisle. Once they got to their assigned seats, they stood by their chair until it was time for them to sit. In their hands they carried a portion of Rachel’s bridal bouquet. Then came her closer family members - her niece, the Groom’s niece, siblings and then last, the Bride’s two daughters, all of which stood under the Chuppha with the Bride and Groom, and Rabbi. Rachel then walked the aisle by herself making her way from one flower friend to the next, building her bridal bouquet as she walked. Each piece was wrapped in ribbon with a heavy duty magnet inside to help keep the pieces together. Once she got to the Chuppha her long time friend and mentor, who sat in the front row, met her by the Chuppha. This friend has been in her life since they met at Summer camp when he was just a few years older and her CIT - “Counselor in training” for those of you who never went to camp! He helped her tie the pieces of her bouquet into one, and lifted her veil over her face as a father would, and helped her walk up to the Chuppha to meet her Groom. It was a tear jerker to say the least. Guests hummed to Do Di Lee along with the musicians.  

When it came to design, she would use the words such as lush, feminine and romantic. While she loved the pictures she accumulated that were more traditional for a ballroom or hotel setting, she also loved more modern weddings and couldn’t really make up her mind what direction she wanted to move. In the end she felt if she went too modern then she may regret it later on, so the sense of modern was minimal, such as chairs we chose. This is a common conversation that comes up with wedding gowns more often but for venue design as well. If I really express myself and how I feel today, will I regret not having been more traditional in design twenty years from now? For her the answer was yes.

The venue was chosen for a host of reasons and in the end, the main ingredient they wanted in a venue, which was to be by the ocean, was not possible. The couple resides in Westchester and needed the venue to be rather local to accommodate all the people they hoped to attend - more important than the ocean. Having hotel accommodations on-site to make the weekend easy for all far away family members, many of which have children, and to be close to the city, close to LaGuardia and close to their home. The Ritz in Westchester is located near metro north and there is another hotel that is brand new as of 2016 right around the corner for those that wanted to spend a bit less on accommodations.  The weekend started with dinner at a near by restaurant and ended on Sunday with guests being shuttled to the couples brand new home in nearby Rye, New York - something that was very important to them both. 

We got lucky that day on traffic. As sometimes is the case we watched WAZE like a hawk and all roads were clear, so the couple, along with their fabulous photographer we love so much, Roey Yohair, traveled to Greenwich to get in some waterfront photos.  Then on the way back they also managed to take a quick pit stop at their home in Rye, NY to include Ackerman, their family dog in the festivities. Then back to the Ritz in time for the Ketubah signing and ceremony. All roads where clear and gosh are we thankful. The risk was worth the reward said the bride and I was happy to oblige as long we the risks were understood. Thank you to the traffic gods!

Thank you to all the vendors that made this wedding exactly what the couple wanted it to be! They waited a awful long time for this day to come and they couldn’t have been more thrilled. I will never forget the look at Rachel’s face when she entered the reception room during cocktail hour and her jaw fell. She screamed, “My white dance floor, my big white dance floor” and began to dance as the band, The Carlos Estrella Band, warmed up. They were fabulous by the way and nailed the very much rehearsed first dance the couple had prepared with them for weeks beforehand. 

Photography below by Roey Yohair 

Planning + Design | Ashley Douglass Events

Florals + Design | Fleurs NYC

Photography | Roey Yohai Photography

Venue | Ritz Carlton

Gown | Austin Scarlett

Band | Carlos Estrella Band from Hank Lane

Cinematographer | First Day Films

Lighting | Social Event Decor

Make up | Amanda Shakleton

Gown Dresser | The Stylish Dresser

Invitations | Bella Figura

Caligraphy & Design | Sarah Hanna

Rentals | Nuage Designs

Rentals | Party Rental LTD

Architectural designer's launch party | New Canaan, CT | July 2017

We could not have been more excited to have been hired to plan and design this fabulous launch party for the Maiden Lane Group in tandem with them hosting an open house for one of their pristine and perfectly restored New Canaan, Connecticut homes. 

The home was designed with such thoughtfulness and detail; the lighting fixtures, the fabric wall paper, the flooring, the array of paint colors, tiles, knobs, built-in book cases and other nooks - total perfection. You always want to work with what is already there at a venue, or in this case a home, and build from there. This is not the time to reinvent the wheel, just make it better and more WOW for a party's sake! Lucky me, the owner of The Maiden Lane Group also loves grey, blue, silver, brass, coper and white as much as I do! Also, lucky for us he has wonderful taste and was all for pushing the button to make the design, and the party's flow, more perfect. Modern with a tad of hollywood regency were in order and, in true OCD fashion, we worried about guests clashing with the decor. We knew pretty fast the guest count was going to be high so we made the invite to be an All White party.  Listen to me - you can never go wrong with an all white party and in July no less! White always looks right! 

Inside the home and on display, and for sale at the open house tours, were one-of-a-kind paintings by renowned and local artist Paul Balmer. We've had real art in a tent before so the opportunity jumped out at Ashley when she first entered the home and saw most all of the works were from the same artist. Yes, rain plans were in place and people on hand - no art was put in danger! Thank you to Paul Balmer for being so generous and accepting of the offer, and entrusting us with your beautiful canvases. 

Thank you to the fabulous team that helped bring our vision together - Social Decor, Belle Fleur, Laurence Craig Catering, Okamoto Studio, Luxe Event Rentals, American Furniture Rentals, Party Rental LTD and Greenwich Tent Co.  Huge Kuddos to Katie Fischer Design for bringing everything together with The Maiden Lane Group's new branding, website and also the invitation, and other day of paper details. This invitation was just exquisite! And a shout out to Ryan Oak Productions for their jaw dropping mentalist and Jarrell Entertainment for spinning the tunes! 

Please scroll the beautiful photos captured by Melani Lust Photography! 

Planning + Design | Ashley Douglass Events

Florals + Design | Belle Fleur

Photography | Melani Lust Photography

Catering | Lawrence Craig Catering

Band | Jarrell Entertainment

DJ | DJ FLO

Lighting | Social Event Decor

Lighting | Millers Rentals

Tent | The Greenwich Tent Company

Invitations | Katie Fischer Design

Mentalist | Ryan Oakes

Cigars | Martinez Cigars

Rentals | Gather and Lounge

Rentals | American Furniture Rental

Rentals | Luxe

Rentals | Party Rental LTD

 

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